Topic: go to plilly meet VV 84-come home get served divorce papers!!!!
Michelle Pons
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Member # 381
posted January 06, 2004 01:25
Well guys, life deals some hard blows! My friend kills himself right before Christmas....I go to Philly to see my family and when I come home, my husband serves me divorce papers
posted January 06, 2004 09:47
Terrible news indeed. Good part is, you'll get over that and grow an even better person.
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I've had my fair share of deaths in the last month, so i know. Lost my aunt on dec. 6th, my cousin's wife on the 7th (he had lost his mom the day before!) and my best friend's mother in law died on new years eve. My december felt like a bad Six Feet Under rerun. But i never came here to talk about it, why bother?
As for the divorce thing, good. Fire the old, make room for the new. Since youre into legal stuff, screw him up in the deal as much as you can.
posted January 06, 2004 13:42
Michelle may want to consider what my ex-boss's ex-wife did shortly after she divorced him - take up with the lawyer who handled the case for her. Serves him right for screwing around on her. Now the lawyer, who negotiated a very tough deal for my ex-boss which includes a very restrictive child custody arrangement, answers the door whenever he comes over to pickup the kids!
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posted January 06, 2004 14:15
Actaully if you both can be civil and human to each other it's a lot better to if you can come to an agreement on who gets what, and how much. If you can work out all the details without a lawyer, you'll save yourself time, money, and headaches, and be able to get on with your life a lot sooner than battling it out. Now, if he screwed around on ya than he'd be smart to give you what's fair. I don't know the situations of why it's happening but I wish ya the best.
posted January 06, 2004 15:05
Sorry to hear about all that, Michelle. (and Skul! damn, sorry about your losses man) Best of luck to both of you in dealing with your hardships. I know divorce can be a tough go, because my folks split up when I was young and I am facing the possibility of it myself right now. Schroeder has given some excellent advice though - try to keep everything as civil as possible and things will go much smoother.
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posted January 06, 2004 15:20
so you had no clue that anything was up when you were served??? that is very odd. don't freak out too much, divorce is survivable, a couple of us here have gone through it.
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schroeder
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Member # 5
posted January 06, 2004 16:34
LEGAL ZOOM I was surfing around the net last week and came across this site (my wife & I are having problems also, so I was checking into things... we're trying to get thru a tough year of fighting and not seeing things eye to eye). It's very interesting and helpful. You can really handle the entire proceedre yourself if you both can work things out. It also depends on what state you live in. Either way, the site helped me understand the important issues, and realize how much time and $$$ we could save if we end up going down that road.
posted January 06, 2004 18:10
i have no idea what to say to you pons, but i went through almost 13yrs relationship, so it was tough for me, i believe it kinda made me even more freaky my outlooks have completly changed i have dated 4 women since my x and i just dont have time to go through all that bullshit again (mabye cause i am no bullshitter) ? but i think it is better to find someone your own age or older ? the women i have dated since my x have all been younger and boy is there a generation gap ! you might just find living alone gets very comfortable very quick.
sorry to hear about all that skul ! man thats alot to deal with.
posted January 06, 2004 18:16
my papers were finally filed for divorce yesterday (one year waiting period in this screwed up state). so i should be free by the end of this week or next. it will be tough as hell, but you will get through it, too. i know im having WAY too much fun being single---once i finally got over my ex totally screwing me over, that is.
posted January 06, 2004 18:21
Just do like my family does - live in sin! My dad's living in sin with his woman (okay, so he's a kept man ), my sister's got 2 beautiful bastard children with her man. The only one who got properly married is my older brother - and he's separated from his wife now! What's the point?
posted January 06, 2004 18:29
in this day and age Meg, that is very true. all the horror stories i hear of child custody and support battles. looks like i was the lucky one compared to half my friends.
posted January 07, 2004 10:42
This thread is starting to scare me. Is this what I have to look forward to? Ah, I'll just do something special for my boyfriend.
posted January 06, 2004 01:25
posted January 06, 2004 13:42
), my sister's got 2 beautiful bastard children with her man. The only one who got properly married is my older brother - and he's separated from his wife now! What's the point?
